Well, the epicenter of the problem starts with simple analogies like a boy and girl can never be friends. Interestingly its true to a certain extent of a modification wherein a boy and girl can never be just best friends. Yes, it’s the 21st century, yes people can think about stuff other than sex. But sex aside, our entire lives are shared with these opposite gender best friends.
They come in at every single moment when you need them, and everytime you want to crack a joke. You and your best friend are legit the best comedy act in the school or university. But is platonic love really just friendship? Platonic relationships might just be fatal to the human body. An intense attraction to a person of the opposite gender can shatter you when you discover its love. You, the best friends who promised to never fall for each other inevitably did. It was a setup, it was bound to be, you’re only human. Humans are attracted to thoughts, and if your best friend is good looking your thoughts are more vivid.
So be it, I will date my best friend, he/she gets me the best and I really like this person. It’s a little risky, you’re a little hesitant. But it’s your best friend, what can go wrong. So its love now, platonic love is too deep now. It’s about hugs, kisses, cuddles and romance. The unconscious flirting you did as best friends is conscious now. You can see how much in love you were before and how much in love you are now. It just gets deeper and deeper and deeper. But wait a minute, conscious flirting. Oh yes you do that now. You have times fixed up for each other. You prioritize each other now. This relationship needs your constant attention. You have to consciously flirt, consciously be happy, consciously intermingle your life with this other person.
Is this what love is really like?Is it so difficult and time consuming and draining?You cared about each other’s happiness in the friendship. Suddenly it’s my happyness, my time, my life. The friendship that turned love desperately wants friendship again. It desperately needs jokes, and mindlessness and chatter. It doesn’t need I love you. The sex even though is amazing has to has to go. The epiphany is too great, and this person who is a habit now decides to leave.
What now. Was it a bad decision? Was the jump the worst idea in your life. Well, no. It was the best decision you ever took. It’s a decision you took that counts. You shared all those times together, the love, the hugs, the cuddles. They won’t go in vain. This one person made you feel like his/her everything, this feeling however long it was, was amazing. Probably the person isn’t in the same place. Probably you just need to get your shit together to be in love again. It won’t go badly, time heals everything. And if your friendship is really strong, who knows you’ll be best friends again.
Legit just consoling myself with this one, but more importantly what this exemplary piece of literature means to say is–
Koi baat nahi yaar. Hota hai.
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